Choose the Handle That Holds: A Guide to Living, Leading, and Owning the Moments That Matter
The book changing the conversation on leadership
Here’s the truth: Leadership isn’t handed to you with a job title, a corner office, or a trophy. It’s not about managing others or fitting into someone else’s mold. Leadership is built in the choices you make every day—how you show up, face challenges, and own your moments.
“Becky’s insights offer a fresh perspective on the importance of valuing process over outcome, making this a must-read for athletes and anyone seeking a more meaningful life.”
Nate Kaeding, Nine year NFL Alum & Entrepreneur
“This book is a must-read for anyone looking to lead with authenticity, courage, and a genuine connection to those around them.”
Kellie Wells Brinkley, Olympic Bronze Medalist, 2012
What people are saying about Choose the Handle That Holds
“Becky Schmooke is a fresh new voice elevating Stoic wisdom for those striving to live with wisdom, courage, equanimity, and joy—circumstances be damned.”
- Ned Johnson, Coauthor of The Self-Driven Child
"Choose the Handle That Holds" is a powerful, heartfelt guide where Becky Schmooke shares leadership wisdom that sticks—practical, authentic, and built to last.”
- Captain Brett Crozier, US Navy Retired, Former helicopter & fighter pilot, commanding officer of a US aircraft carrier, and author of Surf When You Can
In Choose the Handle That Holds, Becky Schmooke dismantles the myths that make leadership seem out of reach. Through her own candid stories, humor, and lessons from professional athletes, military leaders, media executives, and more, Schmooke proves that leadership isn’t about power but about small, intentional choices that lead to big impact.
More than anything, leadership is the difference between merely passing time and truly living. Grounded in timeless Stoic wisdom but refreshingly relevant, this book is packed with tools like SAFE and STOA to help you navigate life’s challenges, make meaningful decisions, and live with purpose. Don’t let this book collect dust on your shelf. Use it as a guide you pick up again and again whenever you need clarity, confidence, or a reminder that leadership starts with you.
Whether you’re leading others, building a strong foundation for your family, overcoming adversity, or striving for personal growth, this book will remind you that leadership is a lifestyle—and it starts with how you live every day.